Wednesday, July 29, 2015

Move into the way! Move Out! - Get In!

Bthe time the smoke finally cleared, three people had magic superpowers and one of them had become a giant sea turtle !

-- Entitled

Come on - Everyone acts this way... Don't They?  

It seems like we are aways hearing about this, so called "Entitled" generation, and how frustrating they can be.  
- We all know them! 

They are the one's who are: 1) Unimpressed by anything and anyone 2) Seemingly non-hard working 3) Arrogant, and expecting things are supposed to just magically work out for them because they are somehow "special"! 
-- Yep, we know them. 

They are the seemingly un-realistic folks who just expect that their future is going to be all perfect and gleaming, merely because they see themselves as the super duper special ones. 
They have also seen others doing quite well and without taking the time to understand and appreciate exactly why, they just simply Assume that others must have been magically handed their success. Why not Them Too?  
They act like: "Hey, I own any earth I stand on". 
They appear to have a "No worries at all - I got this all figured out! - It's all just soooo easy!" kind of vibe about them.

Yep ... We all know them! 

And Yes, It can be very frustrating....

But -- Here's the thing: 

Everybody Acts Entitled (in some ways) ! 

The situation is seemingly more about Delusion.
The amount, direction and intensity of the Delusion is what makes it such a tricky bugaboo. 

Perhaps it's our idea (or assumption) that each day we can drive our cars to and fro unharmed, or maybe it's the thought that we can safely step in and out of the bath each day, is that which shows our complete delusion. Especially when you look at the statistical averages. 

But we, in fact need our delusions in order to live our lives. 

We, just like these "annoying" students, have to Believe that for Us - Things will always be Fine!

Doing good work, building proper RCI and creating actual value? - Now, that is an entirely different story... 

It's been said that, for some people, having their mentors treat them as equals can create sheer Magic - Yet for others, it creates sheer nightmare! Like when a cocky young musician finally discovers the truth about his or her place in the "reality/delusion-balance" as they fall, embarrassingly flat on their faces--Sadly too, right in front of the folks they most wanted to wanted to wow or impress. It can be sad to witness. 

My musician friend from Texas always says: "Well...That old boy's humongous ego has just plumb flat exceeded his minuscule little abilities!" 


This "entitlement" thing can also be tricky because it can have different faces - Where as often, people who possess crazy amazing skills think just so lowly of themselves, that they can actually Damage themselves! Due to the low sense of "entitlement" they believe themselves capable of or deserving of - they self-sabotage every single bit of their own progress. It's like the other side of the "Entitlement" coin. Giving-in to the "Entitlement" the Dark Side!

Much like those people who are "Entitled" just expect things to be great without any real plan, could stand to learn a bit of Humility - Many others who have an "internal negative expectation" or "Negative-Entitlements" could perhaps learn to appreciate themselves and their true, powerful value. 

Now, there are those typically young and un-impressed by anything, annoyingly "entitled" folks who are, in reality the are the baddest cats on the block

This does happen occasionally! 
But....most often, they just suck.

The litmus test for both seems to be the same: ....Time! 

Time proves the "Entitled" winners from the merely delusional!

I always joke that when a person tells me what they do for work, I ask to see their cellphone! From experience, I know that if they are truly good at what they do and they are valuable what they do, the phone numbers and/or email addresses on their cell phones will prove a pretty quick and easy way to see who's Making it or who's Faking it!

.....So let's give these "Entitled" bunch a pass, because time will eventually show to them what most of us have already known all along....  
We can instead, focus on developing our own Prodigy path, build up our own RCI and actually enjoy Doing what we want to do in our lives! Minus all of the drama. 

We know what laser focus and true humility can do for us. So we can rest assured that the "Entitlement" bunch will learn this lesson, eventually. 
-- We just get to know it ahead of time! 

There is a real benefit in doing things right.

Growing up in Silicon Valley, I have definitely seen many a miserable and suffering rich person.

It's like if we do it wrong, we get "Weeds in the Garden", and these Weeds are darned hard to get rid of. They always seem surface again sooner or later. They just serve choke the life out of the Flowers and we often see these seemingly wealthy folks experience great suffering and pain later in life. 

Don't be fooled....Often the outsides of other people's perfect little lives might appear to be nice and shiny - but look deeper, and Bam! - There it is. Ouch...the Truth! 
We can very easily assume too much about others. 

The truths about people's "Weeds in the Garden" can be quite eye-opening! Yet, the coolest folks seem to lead with Laser Focus and real Humility. 

Just Remember: 

Cocky is like Hockey...Sooner or later, you're gonna get your teeth get bashed in...

-- Jump! 

Thursday, July 16, 2015


Imagine...We pay for a trip to Hawaii. We read all of the brochures and fun stuff about our upcoming trip. We even get ourselves into the gym to be in shape so we can climb up Diamond Head or maybe even go Surfing. 

After months of waiting and reading and working out, the day finally arrives. Excitedly we get to the airport counter and Bam! 

The person at the ticket counter greets us with a nice smile and not so politely informs us that we.....are not actually Going to Hawaii. 

They then say that they are "Sorry to have mislead us" and "Maybe they should have said to us in advance of us paying the full per-paid fare, that we would not necessarily get to actually Go on Vacation to Hawaii - Sorry to not say that up front!" --Then, to make it worse: You are made to feel like it is somehow Your Fault

Nope - This can't work! 

Yet... for many schools?  -- It is working!  Working very well!

But who is at fault ?  

Is it Us?: 
Is it our fault for paying the Full Fare to the: "You just may not actually get to go to Hawaii, Travel Company"? 
A "company" known to have a history of this type of thing, and especially after seeing this exact thing happen to so many others beforehand? 
That sounds like a mistake on our part, doesn't it?

Well, is it the School's fault? 
Maybe for not leveling with us up front?

Is it Both? ...  Who Knows? 
There is definitely one thing that is true and the trick now is to ask to about a schools' "Yield" beforehand

In other words: We should "Read The Reviews" by "Folks in the Field" (the Field you want to go into...) and seek out the places these people went to school or and the ones they recommend for us.

We need to Stop just thinking that the words "We Have A Good Program for x,y or z..." means that we will actually get to do what we went there to do -- Even though they conveniently have taken our money already ! 

Who's mistake is that ?'s Ours! It's Our Mistake!  
Remember: The "Yield in the Field" matters. Good schools, like good teachers will leave a trail of successful students in their wake! We have all seen this to be true.

Caveat: Obviously, many schools have amazing Yields and many have had these amazing Yields for decades. 
And often times we, as students can be a bit delusional about our real chances of doing well in our chosen fields. Even if our schools were to magically open the gates, we still have to take Responsibly that, for instance: If we never practice (hello...???) Then complain about not playing - Take Responsibility that if we are say 5'1"...That we probably won't get to play Center in the NBA -- Take Responsibility that if we hate being in the water...That we probably won't get a great gig as a dolphin trainer. 

There has to be accountability on our parts here, too!  Big Time! But, if we find ourselves already attending a school with a low or zero yield, then it is our mission to seek out, or request help to bridge this gap.

I offer a "Positive Disruption" Consultant service that I bring  to schools and individuals - It is "Positive Disruption" in as far it disrupts and works to eliminate this pattern of "No Yield" or "Low Yield" Status in schools. It also works to eliminate the ineffective mental patterns that so many of us have adopted and we repeat to ourselves daily; allowing for unnecessary failure and the constant imprinting of poor planning thought patterns to continue - making the wrong things feel Right

"Positive Disruption"...This is the new solution! 

Remember: If you keep doing what you have always done, you will keep getting what you have always gotten.

Many music students have significantly reached out over the past year for Clinic and Coaching Help: What's happening right now? -- Is obviously not working for them! 

It's our job to be accountable and keep things real. 
It's our future and our lives.

This time: Enjoy Hawaii. 

We've Earned It! 

-- Jump